1/ Wash with Gold Class Shampoo & Conditioner using MF mit, dry with drying towel.
2/ Clay Bar (using Quick Detailer as lubricant, alternatively use GC Shampoo diluted in 'srayer')
3/ Deep Crystal Paint Cleaner applied with foam pad.
4/ 'Ultimate Compound' applied with microfibre pad (new product for 2009 - very good, even by hand application).
5/ Deep Crystal Polish applied with foam pad.
6/ Gold Cass Liquid Wax applied with foam pad.
The above would be for a 'full clean' for Mondeo Mania, Ford Fair etc and takes 2 days to do by hand. For 'normal washing' it's Wash, Polish and Wax.
Tips - Don't use the clay bar too often as it's abrasive. When washing use the 'two bucket' method. All of the products that I use are Megs, but, AG HD Wax is meant to be VERY good, but, pricey (did read somewhere that you can actually get it for £30 from some Ford dealers!!).
I will of course be investing in a Megs G220 polisher in the very near future.
I agree with you, it's better to do everything yourself. Because sometimes you can get into non-professionals and damage your car. So if you want to wash your car the best thing is steamer for car detailing.